Chameli ki Shaadi

This January many people i know will get heart aches as she ties knot with her boyfriend. I am not talking about a TV or Film Star but she is someone who has broken several hearts. I know her since my +2 days and wherever she has been, guys have been there to fall in love with her. May be its not love but when you see everyone competing for the same girl you tend to believe she is precious. When i saw her for the first time i knew this is the girl i always wanted to marry, her short hair, her dressing sense, the colors she wore(blue and red), everything made me feel i want her, but the problem is everyone feels so. And there is the catch she can chose whoever she wants from may be over 200 shortlisted guys. I am not sure what my position is in the waiting list to marry her, but after having a crush on her for 8 odd years or so i still wonder if she was a right choice for me. After all marriages are made in heaven so if i was to marry her, we would have met in some way or other. But we never talked apart from the usual Hi or Bye. Does that mean she is not suitable for me, atleast that is what i would conclude as God has been very generous in giving me good people around me.

When you choose your soul mate there are many things you should look at, your hobbies should match,otherwise there would be very few things for you two to share. And all of us have something in our life which could be our purpose of living or our aim in life, your partner should be able to appreciate that, if that is not the case i am afraid your marriage will turn out to be a mere agreement and mostly this is what happens in India as everyone but the couple should feel good about the marriage. In order to keep parents and relatives happy the basic reason behind getting married diluted. And the need for a partner is different for different people. Some want a caring partner, some want a dependable partner and some look for someone they can care for. If the roles are complimentary its fine but if both are say dominating it leads to fights and quarrels. It takes time to realize what we want from our partner, may be after you settle in job the need arises, as during college days we look for a partner to hang out or just to make everyone jealous. This explains why many of the love marriages are not successful and many a times by luck you get a wife through arranged marriage who suits you perfectly. There is a nice way to know if the girl or boy you are dating right now is good for you. Just think have you been able to tell him/her everything about you? If the answer is yes its great as if the hearts are not connected and if you are not exactly comfortable with her the chances are you cannot express yourself properly. It does not matter if you are a introvert or extrovert because if only two people are talking you should be able to pour out your heart to her. So keep your search on and may be i will soon have a crush which materializes into love and then to a marriage.